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TUFF SERVICES MINISTRIES™    
                                        

Certified Interfaith Pastoral Counseling, Coaching and Trauma Relief Service

 
 
 

Rev. Bryan Ostaszewski

"Ordained Minister, Sr. Chaplain and Certified Counselor, Board Certified Mental Health Life Coach"

 



Pastoral Counseling


People get hurt, frustrated and discouraged for a number of reasons. Some people create their own troubles through wrong decisions and actions. Many people suffer at the hands of others or simply because of circumstances beyond their control. This is especially true for those who are facing tough times through no fault of their own. Please place your cursor on the "Counseling" section above to open a full menu of resources. And please CLICK HERE to view our most current flyer.

Life can be pretty unmerciful. Loss of a loved one, loss of a job, a financial challenge or ruin, betrayal, a bad marriage, an illness like cancer: all involve that sick feeling inside that life is not the way it is supposed to be. When it isn't, we instinctively work to recover what we lost. If the answers don't come quickly, stomachs start to turn, ulcers bleed, tempers flare and the wounds begin to go deep into the soul.

Our normal reactions to life's ambush on the soul and its destructive assault on our bodies, marriages and relationships can get ugly fast. Either we get angry, or we fall victim to a gnawing anxiety that drives us deep into the shadow lands of fear. We shouldn't blame anybody for his or her initial reactions to these attacks. The downward spiral from assault to ambush to anger and anxiety happens to both good and bad people alike. We are all susceptible to this overwhelming journey into the abyss of pain.

When our pain continues to go unresolved, a heaviness begins to envelop our lives, leaving us feeling terribly alone and alienated. As we feel more and more isolated from others, we are often perceived as arrogant and uncaring, but our hearts are blinded by pain.

This leads to dangerous diversions and flirtations with experiences, things, or relationships that seem to dull our pain--what is called "adulteries of the heart." Finally, we begin to descend even more on our journey into addiction--diversions and flirtations become fixed and compulsive idols, we cling to in our pain and desperation. Negativeness whispers lies to immobilize us, diluting our hope for a better life.

As we plummet toward the bottom, we may even lose heart and begin to doubt even our own character. The good news is through our brokenness and powerlessness, there is a path to healing. New beginnings start with an understanding of what has happened each step of the way on the downward spiral. Your natural tendency will be to bypass the effort to understand your pain, instead of focusing on recovery. 

TUFF Services Ministries would like to take you on a personal journey. It's a journey during which you're going to have to be brutally honest with yourself. It may be uncomfortable--you might see pieces of yourself that you don't like. No matter how difficult, hold on to hope because there is healing in this journey, that we will take together! By understanding the process and path of brokenness, you begin to heal. If you can understand the why of your wounds, then the how of coming out of your pain will begin to make sense.



"Let Us Take You On A Journey Of Hope And Healing"



At the TUFF Services Ministries, our goal of Pastoral Counseling is to help an individual think about their current struggles in the context of a confidential, caring environment.  "We truly care about your well being and are here to assist you" 

Our Counselor, Reverend Bryan Ostaszewski, is an ordained nondenominational Minister. He has been involved in religious-theology practices and studies for over 25 years and has additional education and experience with many different religions. He is a Certified Pastoral Trained Counselor and Life Coach providing: Marriage, Family, Grief, Spiritual and General life guidance. Your counseling experience will utilize guided questioning, empathetic support, problem definition, reflection/reading assignments and encouragement, to those who are hurting and in need. 

We counsel in many different formats for your convenience. These include: In-Person (Person To Person) and we use Video - Conferencing with: Tango and Skype.  You may use the PayPal button below to pay for each of your sessions.
 
 
 
 
If you would like more information about this service, please complete the form below. One of our team will be in contact with you to review the many options available, and to assist you with your current situation. "Remember, you are never alone!" If you may also contact us at: (800) 649-0925. 

We Provide Video and Phone Therapy Sessions (Zoom, Webex, Microsoft Teams)  --Some Restrictions Apply

 
 
 
 
 

Depression Plunged Me into Darkness. God Met Me There

“I couldn’t read Scripture anymore, yet God’s Word still nourished me”


I woke up one morning, like normal, to prepare breakfast for our family. After breakfast, my copastor and husband, Rudy, offered to take our girls to school. I hugged and kissed them goodbye, then headed to the bathroom to finish applying my makeup. But as I put on my mascara, a sudden tidal wave of feelings flooded my body—a cross between dread and nausea—and almost knocked me off my feet.


I called our church secretary to tell her that I was not feeling well and would come in around noon. But then, as though I was having an out-of-body experience, I saw myself hit redial. I mumbled, “I’m not coming in. I am not coming back. I’m going to take a sabbatical or something, maybe a medical leave.” Then I hung up the phone, crawled into bed, and proceeded to have what my grandmother surely would have called a nervous breakdown.


I slept 18 to 20 hours a day for weeks and only awoke out of necessity; even with all that sleep, I still felt exhausted. After a week or so, my husband said, “Baby, I think you need to see a doctor.” So, I made an appointment to see a psychiatrist. At the end of our first visit, she gave me a prescription and a diagnosis: “major depressive episode.” Then she said the dreaded words: “In six weeks, you should begin to notice changes for the better.” Six weeks? Oh God, can I live like this for another six weeks?


When everything fell apart in my life, I had to learn for the first time how to be—with myself and with God. The tools and spiritual practices that I had always leaned on, like corporate worship, fasting, and prayer, were, in that state of mind, totally inaccessible to me. I had always enjoyed studying the Bible and used to do so for hours, but now I simply could not focus. I could not comprehend the words and I felt too exhausted to even try. Being a pastor made it no easier.


Well-meaning people often said things to my family like “Tell her to read the Word.” I longed for the comfort, wisdom, and insight that the Scripture had always offered me, but in that deep darkness, I was not capable of reading it—the words meant nothing to me.

Then, about six weeks into therapy, God spoke to me: I will give you the treasures out of the darkness. That word from God gave me enormous hope. I did not feel any different physically—no chills or feelings of love flowed through me. But that word spoke into the depths of my being and became a lifeline for me. I felt as though God was present with me. I began to feel comfort after weeks of disorientation. When I felt discouraged by the formidable sense of being adrift, it was that word that gave me an anchor through the darkness and despair. God’s word spoken that day was now hidden in my heart.


So, I took God at his word. Nothing changed in any substantial way; I remained lethargic and physically and mentally depleted for months on end—but now I had an assignment. I was lucid enough to know that if there was treasure to be found, then I would need to live to mine it, to claim it as my own.


As I slowly began to gain more energy, I decided to visit other churches and attend small retreats where I could simply be present without having the responsibilities of a leader. I went with no expectations—I just knew I wanted to be where the Scriptures were being read and meditated on. Those moments became part of my recovery. They gave my heart a quiet place to rest.


I took baby steps and gradually became stronger. Within a year, I was able to read again. I started slowly by resuming my daily devotional. My long time away from the Word made returning to it sweeter than ever. Now, in addition to medication and therapy, I could count on the presence of God’s Word as a true friend and guide.


 
 
 
 

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Areas of Pastoral Trained and Certified Guidance & Instruction:

Biblical Counseling
Cancer Management Care
Christian Psychology
Christian Life Coaching
Christian Mental Health Coaching (Board Certified)
Critical Incident Stress Management (Groups & Debriefing)
Drug Abuse and Addictions
First Responders, Veterans and Their Families
Grief, Crisis, Trauma & Disaster Guidance (Certified)
Marriage And Family Mentoring (Individuals, Couples & Families)
Suicide Awareness, Prevention, Intervention and Postvention (Certified)
Suicidal Ideation Behavior


"Our services are not intended to be a substitute for professional counseling"
 
 
 
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Book Resources


1. "Turn Your Life Around"

By: Dr. Tim Clinton


2. "The God Shaped Brain"

By: Timothy R. Jennings, MD


3. "Crazy Love"

By: Francis Chan


4. "I'm OK, Your "OK"

By: Thomas A. Harris, MD


5. "Born To Win"

By: Muriel James and Dorothy Jongeward


6. "You'll Get through This"

By: Max Lucado


7. "Cents & Sensibility"

By: Bethany and Scott Palmer


8. "The Freedom To Let Go"

By: June Hunt


9. "Moving Forward"

By: Everett Worthington Jr.

 
 

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