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What is a Suicide Prevention Ministry?

A suicide prevention ministry is a “hope and healing” ministry. While it involves prayer, counsel, visits and assistance, it is centered on providing more awareness, prevention education and healing support to those who are contemplating suicide and to those who have lost a friend or loved one to the act of suicide itself, within our communities.  This requires an understanding of the impact of suicide and how people react to it and how God has called His people to respond. Above all, it requires us to have within ourselves, an unfeigned hope of healing that we can take to those in need. 


The "TUFF Suicide Prevention Ministry” was created because of the significant need of awareness in our nation and the need in our local community, as well as in the body of Christ, to care for those dealing with suicide. The TUFF Suicide Prevention Ministry is officially chartered and it's existence is validated as an independent ministry, through the National Association of Christian Ministers. Our ministry has been properly trained and certified through a number of local and nationally recognized organizations and programs and some include: The Nevada Coalition For Suicide Prevention, the Suicide Prevention Training Institute, The Society For the Prevention Of Teenage Suicide, TSDT -(Teen Suicide Development Training), SafeTalk -(Suicide Alertness For Everyone), ASIST -(Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training), CALM -(Counseling On Access to Lethal Means), QPR Institute and Nevada Suicide Prevention Gatekeeper training, and YMHFA -(Youth Mental Health First Aid). **Over 106 hours of: Youth Mental Health, Suicide Awareness, Suicide Prevention and Suicide Intervention training**


Suicide is a serious public health problem that can have lasting harmful effects on individuals, families, and communities. While its causes are complex and determined by multiple factors, the goal of suicide prevention is simple: Reduce factors that increase risk (i.e. risk factors) and increase factors that promote resilience (i.e. protective factors). Overall, prevention addresses all levels of influence: individual, relationship, community, and societal. Effective prevention strategies are needed to promote awareness of suicide and encourage a commitment to social change.


Suicide claimed 39,518 lives in 2011 in the United States alone, with someone dying by suicide every 13.3 minutes. A suicide attempt is made every minute of every day, resulting in nearly one million attempts made annually. Suicide accounted for 12 deaths for every 100,000 people nationwide, making it the country’s 10th leading cause of death. Unlike many other leading causes of death, suicide continues to claim more lives each year. Please place your cursor on the "Suicide Prevention" section above to open a full menu of resources.

"Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand"  (Isaiah 41:10)

 

The TUFF Suicide Prevention Mission:


"To provide the educational tools and resources within our communities, that will create more awareness of the warning signs and symptoms of suicide and to provide hope, healing and support to survivors -children, youth, and adults who have experienced loss" 

 
 
The Scope Of The Suicide Problem


Suicide occurs when a person ends his or her life. It is the 10th leading cause of death among Americans. But suicide deaths are only part of the problem.  Suicide attempts impact a larger population—more individuals survive suicide attempts than die. And they are often seriously injured and in need of medical care.


Suicide Deaths in the United States:

  • There are far more suicides each year than homicides. In fact, in from 2008 - 2011, the number of suicides has been more than twice that of homicides.
  • In 2010, more than 38,000 people died by suicide.
  • In 2011, more than 39,518 people died by suicide.


Suicide Attempts in the United States:

  • There are an estimated 12 attempted suicides for every one suicide death.
  • In 2009, there were an estimated 374,486 people with self-inflicted injuries are treated in emergency departments. The number increased to 464,995 in 2010 and 487,770 in 2011.
  • The estimated number of people hospitalized for self-inflicted injuries increased from 155,000 in 2009 to 224,000 in 2011.


Age Group Differences:

  • Suicide is the second leading cause of death among 25- to 34-year olds and 15- to 24-year olds.
  • Suicide among 45- to 54-year-olds is a growing problem; the rate of suicide is higher in this age group than in any other.
  • Although older adults engage in suicide attempts less than those in other age groups, they have a higher rate of death by suicide.  
  • Over the age of 65, there is one estimated suicide for every 4 attempted suicides compared to 1 suicide for every 100-200 attempts among youth and young adults ages 15-24.


Gender Disparities:

  • Men die by suicide four times as often as women and represent 78.8% of all U.S. suicides.
  • Women attempt suicide two to three times as often as men.
  • Suicide rates for males are highest among those aged 75 and older.
  • Suicide rates for females are highest among those aged 45-54.
  • Firearms are the most commonly used method of suicide among males.
  • Poisoning is the most common method of suicide for females.


Racial and Ethnic Disparities:

  • The highest suicide rates are among American Indian/Alaskan Natives and Non-Hispanic Whites.
  • Asian/Pacific Islanders have the lowest suicide rates among males while Non-Hispanic Blacks have the lowest suicide rate among females.
 
 

**Is There Hope After Suicide?**

(A Biblical Perspective)



Is Suicide a Sin?


The first question: Is suicide a sin? And the answer is yes. The dictionary defines suicide as "the taking of one's life voluntarily and intentionally." It is the taking of a life in a manner forbidden by God. It is murder—self-inflicted murder, but murder nonetheless—and God's Word states, "You shall not murder" (Exodus 20:13).


Furthermore, life—all life—belongs to God. "In Him we live and move and have our being" (Acts 17:28). We don't own life. God owns life, and He lends it to us at His pleasure to be lived for our pleasure and His glory. Life is not our own to destroy, so the destruction of life by suicide is a sin.


But suicide is not the unforgivable sin. Some have taught that suicide is unforgivable, but such teaching is wrong. Homicide is not the unforgivable sin. If that were the case, the apostle Paul would not be forgiven, for by his own testimony he informs us that he was guilty of murder (Acts 26:11; see Acts 9:1; 10:21). Homicide is not the unforgivable sin; nor is suicide the unforgivable sin. The senseless taking of human life is wrong, but it is not unforgivable, even if the life taken is one's own.


When Jesus died, He paid the penalty in full for all of our sins—past, present and future. In Him, our sins are removed from us as far as the east is from the west. God did not say, "I will forgive you as long as your sins are not too great or as long as you get around to confessing everything you did was wrong." If that were the case, we would all be condemned. But the Bible declares, "Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus" (Romans 8:1).


There is an unforgivable sin, but it's NOT suicide. Matthew 12:23 say, "Whoever speaks against the Holy Spirit, it shall not be forgiven him, either in this age or in the age to come." Since the Holy Spirit is the one who convicts a person of sin, reveals the truth of the gospel, and helps him believe in Jesus Christ as his personal Savior, anyone who continually rejects His promptings cannot be saved. That is the unforgivable sin---NOT suicide. It is believed that a Christian who kills themselves will still go to heaven. Our God is a loving and understanding being.




Can a Christian Commit Suicide?


The second question: Can a Christian commit suicide? And the answer is yes. Christians can commit all kinds of sins. Christians are not perfect. In this life, we have not been fully sanctified, finally glorified. We still possess remnants of our old sinful nature, and in this nature resides the potential for every kind of sin. We have the capacity to contemplate crimes that we never commit. But even the contemplation is itself a sin.


Do you remember how our Lord Jesus expanded the meaning of the Ten Commandments with his own interpretation? For instance, the seventh commandment: “You shall not commit adultery.” Jesus said that if you lust after a woman in your heart, if in your own mind you commit adultery, you are guilty of breaking that commandment (Matthew 5:27-28). The sixth commandment: “You shall not murder.” Jesus said that if you are so angry you want to kill, if you cry to your brother, "You fool!" and you desire to destroy his life, then by that very desire you have broken the commandment (Matthew 5:21-22).


It is wrong for one to take his own life, but it is also wrong for one to contemplate taking his own life. And who of us has not in a moment of despair or frustration or self-pity contemplated, at least momentarily, the taking of his or her own life? The apostle Peter walked on water, and as long as he kept his eyes focused on the Lord Jesus Christ, he continued to walk on the water. But when he took his eyes away from the Lord and began to look at the treacherous waves around him, he began to sink (Matthew 14:29-30).


And yet sometimes in those deep waters we forget. Our faith, which is real, is nonetheless really weak. And the fogs of despair, discouragement and depression become so thick that we cannot see the face of the Lord Jesus. So we need to pray with the man at the foot of the Mount of Transfiguration, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief” (Mark 9:24).




What Happens to the Person Who Commits Suicide?


The third question: What happens to the person who commits suicide? Well, that depends. What happens to any person who dies, regardless of how he dies? If that person is an unbeliever, that person may not go to heaven. If that person is a believer, that person may go to heaven. If the person who commits suicide is not a Christian, that person may not go to heaven. If the person who commits suicide is a Christian, that person may go to heaven. Actually, the bottom line with any of us, boils down to what our intimate personal relationship is between us and God. Then the real decision can be made.




Are Others to Blame When One Commits Suicide?


The fourth question: Are others to blame when one commits suicide? The answer is no. No doubt many will feel guilty in this situation. Why were we not more sensitive? Why were we not more caring? Why did we not encourage him or her more? What should I have done? What didn't I pay more attention to what he or she was saying? It's all my fault. 


No, it's not. God makes each of us responsible moral agents, and each of us is accountable to Him for our decisions and the actions that flow from those decisions. This does not mean, however, that others are without blame and without guilt. Yes, we ought to be more sensitive and more caring and more supportive and certainly more prayerful. There is much blame to bear, and we ought to confess our failures before God, but we are not responsible for another's decision. There is a big difference between failing to support someone who is suffering and the decision of the sufferer to take his or her own life; and while we may be guilty of one, we are not guilty of the other.




Is God Still in Control at the Point of Suicide?


The fifth question: Is God still in control at the point of suicide? The answer is yes—God is still in control. God is in control of all, or God is not in control at all. If there is one exception, God is not sovereign. We may be tempted to say, “God was loving enough, but God was not powerful enough to stop that tragedy.” Or we may be tempted to say, “God was powerful enough, but God was not loving enough to stop that tragedy.” No, we must affirm both the love and the power of an all-wise God. God is loving—He's kind; 

He's tender; He's merciful; He's compassionate; He's powerful; He's mighty; He's sovereign—and death by suicide is an awful, horrible, terrible tragedy. We affirm both the reality of a great God and the reality of a terrible tragedy, but beyond that we affirm that the great God was in control of the terrible tragedy.


Do we have questions? Of course! We want to ask a thousand whys, don't we? Why did God allow it to happen? Why did He not stop it? We want to know why God allowed sin to come into the world in the first place, don't we? God has answers for our thousand questions. He may give us an answer, or He may not give us an answer, but that does not alter the fact that God knows the answer. God knows what He is doing.




Do God's Promises Still Apply to the Person Who Commits Suicide?


The sixth question: Do God's promises still apply to the person who commits suicide? And the answer is yes. All of God's promises still apply to the person who commits suicide, for don't you see that all of God's promises in Christ are "yes" and in Him "Amen" (see 2 Corinthians 1:20). Suicide does not contravene the promises of God. Suicide does not place one outside the parameters of the promises of God. Suicide does not make null and void the promises of God. What about the promise of Romans 8:28 (KJV): "All things (even suicide] work together for good to them that love God." Yes, even that promise applies!




And What Should We Do?


The seventh question: And what should we do? How should we respond in the face of this teaching from God's Word? We should cry. We should cry out in pain. The Bible says to weep with those who weep (Romans 12:15). This is a tragedy that calls for tears.

We should cry out in pain, and we should cry out in prayer and we should cry out in praise. But most of all, we can praise God for being God, for being the God He really is, for being the God whom we can trust even in the face of such tragedies. He is the God to whom we can turn with all of our questions and heartache and pain, and He is the God who has already triumphed for us in Jesus Christ.


If you are desperate or despondent, do not believe that your sadness disqualifies you from Jesus' love or dismays your Savior. Instead, recognize that He is the Savior of the disconsolate and loves to call the sorrowful to His embrace.

 
 
If you are in crisis, 
call 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
 
 
 
 
 
 
Note:  This page is for information purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified provider, prior to making any decision about your health.

**Taken from The Hardest Sermons You'll Ever Have to Preach by Bryan Chapell. 

Copyright © 2011 by Bryan Chapell. Used by permission of Zondervan,